"Accepting my long-standing desire for an age-gap relationship has finally freed me from a lifetime of fear and worry. Let this affirming book reassure you that is normal to want to be with someone older, or younger and that it can be both healing and beautiful. " M. Frederick, Writer and Life Events Celebrant "Just a Number" is an accessible and practical book that provides a comprehensive guide to understanding and navigating relationships with significant age gaps, particularly for men attracted to younger women. It addresses the societal judgment and personal anxieties that often accompany such relationships, offering a framework for healthy exploration and acceptance. The core problem it tackles is the lack of open, honest discussion and practical advice surrounding age-gap dynamics, seeking to foster a more informed and empathetic perspective on these connections and empower individuals to pursue them authentically. This book offers practical, actionable dating advice specifically tailored for individuals involved in or considering age-gap relationships. It provides strategies for communication, building connection, and addressing common concerns that arise due to age differences, empowering readers to approach dating with confidence and skill. The focus is on cultivating healthy, lasting relationships that are mutually beneficial and respectful of the unique dynamics involved. Freddie draws on the experience of Harry - a 42 year-old man with a nineteen year old partner. Readers will gain the confidence to accept and explore their personal attractions without shame, understanding that preferences, like Harry's for younger partners, can be acknowledged and pursued healthily. This takeaway focuses on self-acceptance and the courage to move beyond societal norms, fostering a more authentic approach to romantic pursuits. It encourages introspection and validation of one's desires, paving the way for fulfilling relationships built on genuine connection rather than external approval.