Practical solutions to a problem that may affect 80% of school children. Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, bestselling parenting educator Barbara Coloroso offers a practical and compassionate book destined to become a groundbreaking guide to this escalating problem. Coloroso helps readers recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm; the bullied who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the bystander––peers, siblings, or adults who don't act to defuse the situation. Readers learn: o What bullying is and what it isn't; the three kinds of bullying; and the differences and similarities between boy and girl bullies o How to read the subtle clues that a child is being bullied o Seven steps to take if your child is a bully o Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to a bully o Why zero tolerance policies can equal zero thinking o Why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies. o o Bullying is a widespread problem. In a 2001 study by the Kaiser Foundation in conjunction with Nickelodeon TV network and Children Now, 86% of children ages 12–15 interviewed said they get teased or bullied at school––making bullying more prevalent than smoking, alcohol, drugs, or sex among the same age group. Barbara Coloroso is an award wining author. Parenting Through Crisis and Kids Are Worth It! each won a Parent's Guide Award 2001 from Parent's Guide to Children's Media.