This is a FANTASTIC resource for anyone seeking to change from a shy, always compliant, always 'dumped on' always disregarded personality to one's real self--an EQUAL. The book incorporates numerous exercises--real 'homework' you must do to change--that replace those present incorrect responses to *assertive choices* that are not offensive or argumentative. YOU must *do the work* to replace those old habitual feelings and responses with new ones that command respect and cooperation of others. The examples and actual exercises are unique in my opinion because they lead you through the process of change--step by step-- replacing defective thoughts and feelings with much better, more effective ASSERTIVE responses. Note -this is not about becoming aggressive and irritating, but moving into the realm of 'real collaboration among equals. ' The step-by-step exercises train your emotional responses so you stay in the present, able to evaluate the real circumstance and situation and respond accurately and appropriately. It WORKS.